Hesitation : Its effect on our life!

All of us several time in life has come to a situation where we experience 'Hesitation'('H'), no prize for guessing that most of the time we failed to conquer it. During school/college days we failed to ask questions out of 'H' thinking that it may sounds silly, thought of protecting dream reputations, to escape colleague giggles and many other reasons which contributed not to challenge 'H'. To some extent it has proved to be hurdle in completing our learning satisfactory.

I remember a famous quote of Carl Sandburg (US biographer & poet) who says 'Time is the coin of your life. It is the only coin you have, and only you can determine how it will be spent. Be careful lest you let other people spend it for you'.

The above quotation is necessary in this context since it has clear reciprocal relation with 'H'. More one shy away due to 'H' ends up wasting more time in search of next opportunity to overcome 'H'. Believe me this race continues and delay just keep thickening the skin of 'H'. But this is not a suggestion that one should not try to beat 'H' in next huddle. Early we challenge better prepared we are for business life. Please not be afraid to ask dumb questions. They are easier to handle than dumb mistakes.

It is also important to understand that there is thin line between challenging 'H' and perceive stupid. We should not be afraid to look stupid because only you know what worth is it to challenge 'H'. Any action/dream we try to achieve, during its course of achievement, your surrounding is divided into three barriers groups, first barrier treat you as stupid; Second tries to scare you in the name of advice by narrating worlds all possible failed attempt; Third one tries to stop you; Your believe/determination has to fight all three forces at the same time. It is you who have to decide what is best for you as you will be the beneficiaries as well as recipient of hitch. Before trying we all are in the failure zone but this truth is known only by you. If you fail in your attempt it will be known by few others. But is it going to make much difference to your current status? Obviously it is based on the nature of dream you are aiming for. But remember attainment of your goal is going to be more rewarding than lying covered in blanket of anticipation. Big risk reaps big rewards. Don’t forget the time coin.

Just recall the famous saying of Chanakya, an Indian teacher, philosopher and royal advisor when you are aghast by hesitation, who says "Once you start a working on something, don't be afraid of failure and don't abandon it. People who work sincerely are the happiest."

I have personally being stupid at most of the time to clarify my doubts and have challenged hesitation. I have always followed what I have believed in and have only used three tools sincerity, regularity and only hard work to conquer what I have achieved till now. I always wanted to work abroad as this will be means to achieve my ultimate goal (which is yet to be incarnate), so I quit my stable well proved job to travel abroad jobless, new place, no network, unaware of market condition which was recuperating. I was also given better offers to stay at my current job but I want to chase my ultimate dream and achieved it in this lifetime. Believe me it does take time and challenging the barriers were tough but now it’s all fun. It has boosted my ability to take risk as well as has eliminated failure fear to some extent. I am ready to taste failure than to give up my dream. You get credit for what you finish, not what you start. People close to me during above struggle period will tell you how excited I was to challenge Hesitation.

I will finish by below wonderful lines which I read in one of the blogs of Joel Runyon

Not being afraid to sell your stuff and buy a boat , if that’s what you really want to do, might seem stupid to some people. But, if you actually do it, you get to sail around the world and wake up in a different place every day with a million dollar view. Not too shabby. I can vouch personally, that not being afraid to look stupid, even if it means you’ll fail spectacularlysometimes, lets you do a whole heap of things that you once swore were impossible.

Thank You!

Satender Kumar Mall